How Do I Find My Personal Style?
by Susan Saks
I am writing this a few days after the publication of my book, How to Find Your Personal Style. I’m excited to reveal how it was written – and what I learned – about the art of creating your own style for yourself.
You may have asked yourself, “How can I find my personal style?” It is not an easy question to answer. It will be one of the most important things I ever write about.
In this new edition, my original title was How to Create Your Own Style. It is now “What to Do When You Become Your Own Style.” In order to create a style, you must first acknowledge that you have one. Once you recognize your personal style, you will then be able to choose a course of action that will create that style for you.
Every self-help book, guide, and book about finding our style has a great deal of value in offering something new to us. However, after reading many books and seeking many answers, I found myself becoming bored with the conventional concepts being offered to people who wanted to find their personal style. I decided I wanted to explore the process of finding my own personal style completely from the inside out.
The first thing I did was to sit down and write a list of things that were important to me about myself. I began with the most important information so I could understand what I wanted to say before I wrote any more.
My first idea of what I wanted from my life was to be a strong individual and to be recognized by the people I care about. So I wanted a strong personality and a certain confidence that would allow me to do what I want to do. I wanted to feel accepted, appreciated, and proud of myself.
This first list ended up being extremely short, and it ended up not being very helpful because I discovered that I didn’t need to have all the answers before I could start to create a personal style. This is the most important lesson from my journey toward finding my personal style – that I don’t need to know everything before I am ready to create a style.
The second item on the list was “How to be confident.” Being confident is something I really didn’t want